Welcome To The La La Tigers blog
A glorious collection of musings from founder and MaMa TIger, Rachel Davis. Because perspective is everything.
Solution focussed children
When we consciously shift our children from the problem to the solution, we create a habit. A habit that starts to teach our children to start to shift out of the problem and on to the solution, which is essential for a healthy mind and wellbeing, for what we focus on expands.
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Your voice becomes their inner critic
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Teaching confidence and wellbeing to parents and children aged 2-7 years, through original music and FUN! No musical experience necessary.
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"It's literally the best thing I have ever done with my child!" - Jordana Matsuda - Early Childhood Educator
Racism, like most hatred, is taught in early childhood
The events of the last week have bought me to despair. The ignorance, the hatred, the apathy, have all left me reeling. And yet hatred in the main, in my humble opinion, has to be carefully taught. Young children in playgrounds with other children, do not see colour. They do not see labels and they do not see race. They just see other children.
The way that we, as parents talk about, judge and label and treat others within earshot of our children, is absorbed by the child during the imprinting stage. Before age 7, our children are in a hyper learning phase, essential for their survival and it means that they are absorbing everything and accepting it as fact. This is where our children's beliefs systems are formed. These beliefs go onto become the default programme, that they will use to run the rest of their lives on a largely unconscious basis. It influences all thoughts, feelings and behaviour. It forms part of who we...
Forget learning and focus on your child's wellbeing instead.
As many parents face sending their younger children back to school in uncertain times, I cannot help but wonder how much focus will be on the children's mental and emotional wellbeing and how much will be on getting them back to "normal," or catching up with the check boxes of curriculum needed, to get them back to where they "should" be.
Given the global and traumatic events of the last few months, it would be naive to assume that children can just go straight back to learning, without addressing the anxiety and emotional distress, that may well be held inside their bodies and their minds. Let alone any stress suffered as their parents struggled to work and "homeschool."
Seeing their families frightened, changing routines, removing them from their friends and possibly even losing someone they loved will have a profound effect on how they think and feel about themselves, others and indeed the the world. With negativity pouring from every news broadcast, even if they are...
The "Difficult" Child.
One of the biggest pre-cursors to issues with mental and emotional health in later life is a child's early environment. Recent research claims that 1 in 3 mental health issues are caused by adverse experiences in early childhood. A child's wellbeing is so intrinsically linked to the wellbeing and mental health of their parents or any difficult experiences that they may have encountered. Children can be labelled as "difficult, yet hyperactivity, tantrums, behavioural issues and emotional irregularity, can also be symptoms of mental and emotional distress. The problem is, the moment we judge a child, we have lost any hope of helping them. Because judgement instantly kills connection.
Dead.
But in the words of the great Wayen Dyer, "when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change." Instead of thinking your child is difficult, how about thinking my child is having a difficult time? As a previous sufferer of...
Your Child's Wellbeing and Mindset, Starts with Yours
Before age 7, there is no critical factor and this means that they are absorbing absolutely everything into their subconscious as fact. When we understand this as parents, we understand this, we can start to become super conscious and intentional about the way that we show up with our kids. Our tone of voice, the language that we use and the expression on our faces, all communicates something to your child and this will subsequently become how they see themselves, affecting their sense of worthiness and self esteem for the rest of their lives.
#mindset #wellbeing #parenting
The "Raise a Tiger" Programme
Teaching mental and emotional wellbeing to parents and children aged 2-7 years, through original music and FUN! No musical experience necessary.
Join NOW - 14 Days FREE TRIAL
"It's literally the best thing I have ever done with my child!" - Jordana Matsuda - Early Childhood Educator
They Can't Lock Up Your Mind.
Just when you thought you couldn't get any more locked up, lockdown continues, right? But they can't lock up your mind.
Sometimes the things that are our greatest trials are our greatest teachers. When we look back at the things that have shaped us the most, it is rarely the things that have gone easy, or well. In fact it's the same reason that the Chinese symbol for crisis, is exactly the same as it is for opportunity. Often a crisis can force us out of the sleepwalk that we have been in and wake us up to new ways of doings things that are more in alignment with who we want to be as a person and as a parent.
The thing is, how you experience life is based on how you choose to perceive it. Your mind is a terrible master, but a wonderful slave and you have so much choice in how you choose to think. So today you have a choice ... and it's a big one.
You can choose to carry on doing the same thing, being the same way and going round and...
It's better to be a tiger for a day ...
If there is one thing I know for sure, it's that living in fear is not really living at all. I know, I spent years in fear, locked in my head and with negative feelings. In fact in terms of biology, the moment our body goes into survival mode, any energy that was used for growth is diverted to survival, which is counter-productive to human health and our immune system. I found out the hard way that there really are sociopaths and that these people look like everyone else. These people have no empathy and do not have the best interests of you, or anyone else at heart. They have their own agenda and it doesn't take into account you, or your family. The use of fear to control is one of the oldest tricks in the book and is used so heavily in today's media as we are bombarded with negative or even fake news, images of perfection and anyone not seeming to fit the accepted mould is deemed unfit, unworthy, not enough. An outcast.
FEAR.
And our...
Tantrums and difficult behaviour
Sometimes it’s easy to think your child is being difficult, or is trying to push your buttons. In fact nothing could be further from the truth. The thing is, your child’s behaviour has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own internal world of thoughts and feelings. Their behaviour is merely an outward projection of their internal world.
The minute we judge we have lost any hope of connection and in doing so, any possibility of being able to help them.
Because judgment kills connection.
Dead.
Instead of thinking my child is being difficult, I invite you to bring your compassionate curiosity to what they may be experiencing and instead ask, why is my child having a difficult time?
Do they feel misunderstood? Are they tired, hungry or in need of more attention? Are they struggling to understand or process things that are happening around them?
Your empathy will help you connect. Help them. Strengthen your relationship and allow them to move through...
All by myself. Single parenting during lockdown
Ok, so I'm trying to make light of it, but quite frankly, there is no other way. I have been working from home as a full time single parents for 3 and a half years now, so I feel completely adept at lockdown ... it's really just more of the same. But the added pressure of homeschooling (or not) as the case may be could be enough to flip many parents over the edge. Having implemented many strategies for survival over the years, I have to say that prioritising your own wellbeing at this difficult time is not jsut important, it's essential. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Dancing, meditation, yoga and whatever makes you happy has to be fitted around your day and the needs of any children. I choose to get up at 5am to get what I need and go to bed with the kids - but that's me. Trust me, it was a slug fight in the beginning, mornings have never been my forte, but I quickly saw the return ... in my patience levels, my ability to respond...
